The day your life officially links with another's- for what you desire that last forever- is a moment of supreme happiness, which will always be kept under the "big events" tag in your mind. The problem is that for many, that big event loses colour and positive value as they spend time with their spouse and the problems arise.
Love matters has come up with 3 solid advises that can help save your marriage
Much of this "disappointment", boredom or any negative feelings that can be felt in the relationship did not appear from nothing, had a reason to be and was an evil that was born and grew up without either of us doing anything to avoid it. But like everything in your life from that moment, those bad moments or feelings are not only your responsibility or your duty to solve them, you must learn when to seek help from your partner and resolve this situation together.
Because of this, today we want to share 3 marriage tips to assist couples to cope with the tensions of life together and help them have a happier and more durable marriage relationship.
1. Learn to recognise a valid point
Not everything in this life is white or black, many times; during the same coexistence of a couple, differences between the way of thinking, perspective on things or simply decisions that can affect them both will arise (from the next place to vacation to even the menu for dinner, the differences can be big or small, but they are differences after all). This is normal, 2 people cannot agree 100% of the time.
The key for that this situation to not become a bigger problem is to learn to recognise and accept the perspective of the other as a point, which does not necessarily have to always be right or wrong, that is not disposable because be different from yours and that deserves to be taken into account as much as the yours.
Recognising and accepting the validity of your spouse's viewpoint and thoughts will always be one of the smartest goals to put you down the road of having a good relationship.
2. Love your partner for who they are, not for who you want him/her to become
In a love relationship, it is normal to have expectations regarding the other because we want our life partner to evolve, become the best version of themselves and be happy in our company. But we must be clear that this process cannot be accelerated beyond supporting its free development. We cannot impose this change, much less focus on the who that we want they to be instead of what our spouse is right now. That's because with this mindset we are only conveying the idea that "they is not enough for you".
Love the person that is with you as much as you sure will love the one what they will be and do not forget to love throughout this process. This will promote well-being within your relationship and greater marital bliss.
3. Keep working on your relationship
The best way to avoid boredom, apathy, the atmosphere of emotional claustrophobia and all those negative feelings is to work continuously so that these do not prosper.
Just as we give maintenance to our homes, automobiles and other belongings, the relationship between you and your spouse is a thing build between the two of us and it must be worked on in order to make them feel appreciated, loved and comfortable with each other.
For this, it is not necessary to give great gifts or anything of the kind, only listening and loving in a way the other can feel it is enough to keep the building running. Let your partner feel that they are a positive experience in your life, not a drag.
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Love matters has come up with 3 solid advises that can help save your marriage
Much of this "disappointment", boredom or any negative feelings that can be felt in the relationship did not appear from nothing, had a reason to be and was an evil that was born and grew up without either of us doing anything to avoid it. But like everything in your life from that moment, those bad moments or feelings are not only your responsibility or your duty to solve them, you must learn when to seek help from your partner and resolve this situation together.
Because of this, today we want to share 3 marriage tips to assist couples to cope with the tensions of life together and help them have a happier and more durable marriage relationship.
1. Learn to recognise a valid point
Not everything in this life is white or black, many times; during the same coexistence of a couple, differences between the way of thinking, perspective on things or simply decisions that can affect them both will arise (from the next place to vacation to even the menu for dinner, the differences can be big or small, but they are differences after all). This is normal, 2 people cannot agree 100% of the time.
The key for that this situation to not become a bigger problem is to learn to recognise and accept the perspective of the other as a point, which does not necessarily have to always be right or wrong, that is not disposable because be different from yours and that deserves to be taken into account as much as the yours.
Recognising and accepting the validity of your spouse's viewpoint and thoughts will always be one of the smartest goals to put you down the road of having a good relationship.
2. Love your partner for who they are, not for who you want him/her to become
In a love relationship, it is normal to have expectations regarding the other because we want our life partner to evolve, become the best version of themselves and be happy in our company. But we must be clear that this process cannot be accelerated beyond supporting its free development. We cannot impose this change, much less focus on the who that we want they to be instead of what our spouse is right now. That's because with this mindset we are only conveying the idea that "they is not enough for you".
Love the person that is with you as much as you sure will love the one what they will be and do not forget to love throughout this process. This will promote well-being within your relationship and greater marital bliss.
3. Keep working on your relationship
The best way to avoid boredom, apathy, the atmosphere of emotional claustrophobia and all those negative feelings is to work continuously so that these do not prosper.
Just as we give maintenance to our homes, automobiles and other belongings, the relationship between you and your spouse is a thing build between the two of us and it must be worked on in order to make them feel appreciated, loved and comfortable with each other.
For this, it is not necessary to give great gifts or anything of the kind, only listening and loving in a way the other can feel it is enough to keep the building running. Let your partner feel that they are a positive experience in your life, not a drag.
Image credit: simplepost
Source: www.lovemattersng.com
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